Sunday, October 12, 2014

My Year So Far

October 12th - Where has the year gone?  This has been a dramatic year of changes for me; one of those years that can add a lot of stress in your life.

My job of 30 years at JP Morgan came to an end.  I was given 52 weeks of severance pay. I had plans of spending time this summer with my Grandma.  She always wanted to see the ocean and I had been talking to her about making the trip.  I explained I had lots of time available and we could drive 2 or 3 hours a day in case she couldn't sit in the car too long.  She said she would think about it.  She also said she wanted to come spend a week with me as she wanted to take a break from her home.  I was excited about that.



Just one month later my beloved Grandmother died as a result of a traffic accident.  Although she was 91; she was in excellent health for one her age.  I would say this has been one of the most shocking events that has ever happened to me.  And although the driver has been charged with vehicular homicide and vehicular manslaughter; it doesn't bring my Grandma back.


We bought our first home, a condo, after 25 years of renting.  I finally convinced my husband that it made sense since we were heading towards a fixed income within 10 years, rates were low; and it was a buyer's market.

Of course home ownership is bringing lots of stress to me as I try to make everything perfect.  In the process of doing so, I purchased a toilet that has gotten some of the worse reviews a toilet can get; and will now need to be dismantled and taken back to the store.  I have two doors that will not shut (I didn't even think about closing doors when we toured the condo.  Oh and the refrigerator is too wide and upon inspection of my new counter tops there are two major mess ups with it (the counter top was just installed on Friday) and now they will need to come back and figure out how they will correct it.   I'm still waiting for my carpet to be laid.... and we are moving in 4 days.  I actually drove to the park the other day and cried and cried.... yes it has been emotional time for me.


Then I had another breakdown because Grandma's estate had an auction of her possessions.  It was extremely hard watching others touch her things.  I was very lucky to purchase her kitchen table and chairs, a dresser and vanity set that was in one of her bedrooms, and a quilt she had made.  It will be nice to have those things around me; but I would rather have my Grandma here instead.

And now her house will be auctioned off in November.  I spent a lot of time here when I was growing up.  Many weeks in the summer that were so magical to me because I had Grandma to myself.  I will miss coming here.



And now my back is messed up.  The doctor says my sacroiliac joint is tight.  I'm on a muscle relaxer and working on stretching it out.  The doctor also gave me a steroid shot.  However the only thing that works for the pain is Advil and since I'm on a blood thinner; I'm not suppose to take Advil.  In the meantime this pain is limiting my actions and with a move 4 days away I need to be active.

A bright note is an upcoming trip to New Orleans and a meet up with Kathryn, a dear friend from college.  I've never been to New Orleans but have always wanted to go.  Kathryn loves New Orleans and has been there many times and will be our tour guide.  I'm excited about the trip.   That's why I'm really working hard on stretching out my SI joint since I need to be able to walk and be pain-free for this trip.



And lastly - Gary and I will be celebrating 25 years of marriage on December 2nd.  First, I can't even imagine being married for 25 years.  The time has flown by and as my son said to me yesterday - "in 22 years Mom you will be 80".  Did I mention that children and their smart mouths can add stress to one's life.



3 comments:

Melinda said...

life.....we just have to go with the flow or drown

Melinda said...

not sure where that came from...first thing off the top of my head lol...sounds like something mom might say to us. It has been hard on everyone....and we only get through it because we have to....does not make it any easier for sure

susan said...

I'm so sorry about the loss of your grandmother. I'm glad you were able to buy a few of her belongings so that she'll be close to you always. Buying a home is one of the most stressful times in our lives. Try a guided meditation in the morning. I use Denise Linn or Depak Chopra or Esther Hicks. Try to focus on all the good things in your life. All those annoying things going on with the condo are going to be resolved and your going to have a beautiful home. Lightening up the stress in your life will help your back too. Wishing you the best.